Ratchet or Substance

This week while out at one of my favorite places, I overheard a lively but educational conversation among several men about their experience with women which captured my attention. Two men (looked to be from 25 – 35 years old) were talking about the kind of women they have met in their lives.  Who knew, I didn’t know men had conversations about women and not to that degree. The discussion evolved around how women handled betrayal. Well, one gentleman talked about women from a negative standpoint and the other positive, so I’ll call them, Mr. Negative and Mr. Positive. So, here goes. Mr. Negative felt that if a woman is betrayed they are going to retaliate. Some physically, verbally, and others very obscene or a combination of all. Mr. Positive commented that women react differently and it really depends on who the woman is.  If you hang with a “ratchet” woman, then the behavior is going to be the same, ratchet—loud, boisterous, and can be obscene, totally ignorant.  “It’s all about the selection,” he said. His experience had been that if he selected a woman who was on her “A” game—was going places, had goals, was achieving them and demanded the same of him, he had a different experience.  If he couldn’t keep up or stay focused, then she would dump him and that’s the kind of woman he wanted. He said all that to say, you get what you look for, ratchet or substance.  “It’s all about the selection.”  Your Thoughts?